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TSM 17-008 Supreme Love in Self with Jeanine Staples

Their Story Matters with Sara Troy and her guest Jeanine Staples, on air from February 21st 


Harvard Educated Professor and Coach Unleashes a Powerful Exploration of Black Women’s Terror In Love And Revolutions In Life

Terror and love don’t typically go together in the same sentence but for more and more women the pairing has become a harsh reality. This is especially true in a post 9/11 world colliding with the Trump Era. In our day and age acts of emotional, psychological, and physical violence play out publicly (in the mainstream media), and privately (in intimate partnerships). In light of this, Jeanine Staples asks: How does terror in love impact the way women show up in relationships and how women operate in the world? Can we feel safe, healed, and whole in an age where relational and social terrors against Black women’s bodies and souls are common culture?


In Jeanine Staples’ debut book, The Revelations of Asher: Toward Supreme Love in Self, these questions are explored. Her extensive research reveals women’s fragmented selves and the five ways women live as lovers: Main Chick, Side Chick, Bonnie, Bitch, and Victim. Her two-part, online quiz can easily help women uncover which lover identity they take on in relationships. Her subsequent work ( The supreme love project ) shows women a more conscious way of loving and living in the world.

This isn’t a lovey-dovey take on relationships or “self-help”. It is a raw look at how women heal from deep traumas using the tools of emotional literacy and emotional justice. Jeanine is on a mission to teach women how to turn toward supreme love in self, a concept that goes beyond the limits of self-love.

As an alternative-response to the five toxic lover identities, Jeanine presents a new way of loving and living. She introduces the Supreme Lover Identity and illuminates its integral connection to social and emotional justice for and through Black women’s wisdom.

Although Jeanine champions women of color, her work is far-reaching. She currently has thousands of women, from 11 different countries, in her online community ( Each member is embracing supreme love in self…learning to love supremely so she can live supremely. The Supreme Love Project was born out of this international response from women all over the world craving the tools to take ownership of their lover identities, and consciously seeking greater emotional justice for their lives and communities. Jeanine’s book presents rich examples of this real-life process. The Revelations of Asher is narrated by one of the fragmented selves: Asher. Asher is the questioning protagonist. She inquires and asks the tough questions women feel plagued with – Who am I? How did I get here? Why is this happening? What’s going to happen? What’s wrong with me? Other fragmented selves in the book include: Rajah (the voice of divine wisdom and peace), Maven (the voice of maternal critique), Nason (the voice of approval-addiction), Kagan (the voice of sex, sexuality, and materiality), Laish (the voice of self-doubt and timidity), and Sash (the voice of rage).



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Author of “The Revelations of Asher: Toward Supreme Love in Self Founder of the Supreme Love Project”

Jeanine Staples is Associate Professor of Literacy and Language, African American Studies, and Women’s, Gender, and Sexuality Studies at the Pennsylvania State University. She focuses on dismantling supremacist patriarchies through research, teaching, and coaching. As a sociocultural literacist, Dr. Staples works to understand personal and public voices and stories to solve personal and public problems. She does this by researching the evolutionary nature and function of literacies and texts through the discourses of narrative research. Her work exposes the roots and effects of racism, sexism, and ableism.

Dr. Staples earned her bachelor’s degree in English literature and Urban Education from Howard University, a Master’s degree in Teaching and Curriculum from Harvard University, and her Doctorate in Literacy and Language, with distinction, from the University of Pennsylvania. Her research has been peer-reviewed and published internationally. In addition, her teaching has been nationally acclaimed. She is a sought-after scholar, educator, and coach and has received numerous awards and honors for her talents and professional contributions to the field of literacy studies. She is a survivor of multiple terrors in love.

Jeanine can help our listeners identify their lover identity so they can take meaningful steps towards their supreme self.

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